From the day that event occurred there have been a lot of hullabaloos on whether it was justified for the men who are alleged to be embassava employees(touts) to stripe that woman naked or not. From the video clip that has been making rounds on social media from that day,its evident that, that lady went through a very painful ordeal. That act was so unfortunate.
Those men have been called names, have had insults thrown at them and had all manner of things said about them,But having said that, there is a million dollar question that is lingering from all people, from social media personalities to politicians and different groups from all walks of life.
It is just yesterday when a popular politician and a renown social media guru exchanged bitter words on twitter just because of the same issue. The politician, a prominent Nairobi woman claimed that it was bad and an uncalled for act that was carried out by the said men from embassava company. On the other hand the famous social media guru(name withheld for privacy issues) had much to say about the whole scuffle that has engulfed in the last three days. He argued that if he meets a lady who is scantly dressed,he will either undress her by himself or sponsor her undressing. This was in response to what this Nairobi politician had said on her previous tweet.
Now my argument is. should we take the law on our hands and do the same to the women who always dress badly? Is striping a woman naked the right way to go? Is striping a lady naked just because of her short skirt or dress the the only option that we have? What should be done to those ladies who dress scantly? And what also should we do to those men who always do such things to our women?
Lots of issues have been raised. One question that is being asked by many people is, if it were your mum or sister, or wife to whom such act was done to.would you be happy?
I had the privilege to answer that question and my answer was of course No. But then again am left asking myself, why would my mum dress like that? Why would my sister or wife dress half naked and be proud walking in the streets of Nairobi? Where did respect to oneself go to? or is decent dressing the thing that these men are calling 'half naked" dress code?
Every other woman is alleging that no man or nobody at all should judge what they put on their bodies in the name hiding their "nakedness'.
To this far its either our women decide to change, or learn much of these lessons the hard way or men drop minding the half naked dress code on women and mind their own businesses. In as much as am not supporting that 'BARBARIC' act as it is being called,In my own opinion our ladies should embrace a sense of respect in dressing. We understand that every woman is trying their best to stand out, but standing out doesn't give one a guarantee to dress indecently in the name of wanting to look sexy.
I live this issue for public judgement as the debate goes on.as it is now,the issue is far from being settled.
BUT WOMEN,DRESS WELL, PERIOD.
I rest my case.
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ReplyDeletehehhee ati good and wonderful. well only in kenya
Deletethis is no justification its mockery no one has a right over your body except if his your husband.and its also inhuman.
ReplyDeleteyep it might be inhuman as you allege, but my questions are left un answered. what is the way forward? because something has to be done, its all about change, and change starts with you and i, you dress well, i respect you.
Deletesince men want to dictate how women should dress in nairobi .. give us ideas on how you want us to dress ... maybe come up with a uniform ...
ReplyDeletepeople need to check themselves .. before you strip somebody .. you are justifying how holy you are and feel the need to stone someone else ... and yet we have a huge log in our eyes ... i watched a video and not only were they stripping her they were groping her .... those men are hypocrites and perverts and for the women they are jealous and insecure .... why don't they the "holy " people march to koinange street and strip all prostitutes... those are the same men who watch porn and visit bars where half naked women are .. they want to justify themselves in public ... and my simple question is ? who are you to judge how i want to dress if you have a problem with it then you need to get your perverted mind in check ... and its happening in the church too .. some people claim that they cant worship GOD if the women there are not dressed appropriately .. first all you need deliverance so you can train your sick mind and eyes not to sin ....i put myself in that situation and i felt the helplessness in that woman , the anger that is burning in me is beyond me ... those men are cowards of their own sick minds and only act in a group .. they want to feed their sick minds in wanting to see the whole nude package with a majority cover up ... little do they know they represent the whole of kenyan men .. uncivilized and primitive .. the same men who want to be polygamous in the constitution .. .. disgusted much ...
when a woman gets raped society always ask how was she dressed ? hmm there must be a connection between a rapist and a woman's clothes... this same men undressing women could be potential rapists
i will personally second your sentiments my sister. to some extend the whole of Kenyan male gender is being judged together with those who did the stripping of which to me their are not justified at all to do that. lets talk some sense here, myself as Kenyan man, i cannot support such an act, but then again i cant prevent somebody who is dressed scantly from the wrath of these people who are being termed to as idlers.we need to re-learn the societal morals which we left long ago, we can sing the chorus 'we are in the twenty first generation| for like forever but it wont help. you have raised the issue of church, its true we are claiming that, but as far as am concerned women and not only women but men also ought to dress well before God and before their fathers and mothers as well. if you cant respect a place of worship then who will you respect?
Deletelet it be noted that its not violence against our women,its not dictating, we cant dictate grownups who have got freedom of dressing the way they want, but there are some unwritten stuff we cant change, even come vision 2030 and that's the assumptions on the right dressing and decently.men on the other hand, taking laws into our own hands is totally uncalled for, lets mature up and address such issues in a more civilized manner.
we need to bring justice before something bad happens like a mob rape and murder .. it could get worse .. when you are in a group mentality ..
ReplyDeleteThose things have already happened. what we need to do as society is to look for possible solutions to curb this menace once and for all.we need to look for answers to the many questions we have, lets not debate as to who should the society blame for that or who is holy here.we need change, its a real talk.
DeleteOur bodies r the temple of God,such kind of dressing is ungodly,it encourages sin.My advice is dress well and u r safe.No sympathy for those who dress recklessly.
ReplyDeletethat's a free advice to all. women and men a like . dress well to avoid all this menace.
DeleteMen sell tight trousers and short skirts and dresses to women. Where do you expect them to be worn. And those tailoring such clothes whose their target group.
ReplyDeletesisemi kitu.
Delete"One question that is being asked by many people is, if it were your mum or sister, or wife to whom such act was done to.would you be happy?" young man, even if I was nobody's mother, sister or daughter, I am a human being with equal rights and in fact an intrinsic worth that is the source of those rights as any other man or woman....secondly,what is decency? again this is a relative term that should not be applied in this context. What we are dealing with is a human rights issue, rule of law and ultimately a show of how much contorted patriarchy is in our society. Those who stripped the 2 women on two different occasions were showing power in a society where the rule of law is not affirmed. They are products of a warped upbringing and a warped unregulated industry/business they are in- the matatu industry. They did not strip these 2 women because the 2 were 'indecently' dressed but because they had 'power' to harass women sexually and without the authorities blinking. We have a justice system that is based on moral law, so even the question of the action being justified is out of question. One of the lady who was stripped bore the shame and was on a morning breakfast show said the matatu conductors harassed her and led the mob injustice because she refused to say hi when they cat called her...what a shame upon shame..
ReplyDeleteLet us all invest in mirrors. Double check before closing the door. If you dress in a handkerchief, you will be handled like one. Image is everything.
ReplyDeleteI am a woman, a mother, a sister and a daughter; and all these women/girls in my life all value their dignity. They dress well.
Image is everything. Watu wawache pang'ang'a. Can we now go out and speak to the women in our lives on what is descent dressing and what is not?
It pains my hrt to see a woman comment on how dress should justify who is to be stripped n who is not to be...how she has taught the women in her family to dress 'well'. There are still women to be born in your family,their perception of what is descent may not agree with whats descent to you...cut us the bull n call a wrong wrong without buts...and for christs sake,dont use God or african culture to defend this atrocity...noone is born with clothes on,mayb thats what God intended human being to be...go to turkana you will find women walking with their breasts uncovered...arent there men in that region to b provoked??? Does a woman sitting in a matatu breastfeeding her kid provoke a man because of her exposed breast???? Nothing can justify any of this...talk of rape,a friend of mine was raped by her step dad when she was 4 n now she wears what she want coz from experience no long skirt can really keep yu from a sick minded men...im sick of all th pple trying to justify any of this...n especially women.
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