Dear Millennials, Dissapointed or Culture Shock? A fake programmed life's manual failed an entire Generation.

Gen z's are at it again. Will this fight ever end? The beef gen z's have against their predecessors seems to be overstretching and it's most likely not ending any time soon. It's a battle btn "preprogrammed robots(millennials) and freewillers, the mighty unchained gen z's who are their young siblings. Gez z's are walking in their uncharted waters, questioning everything and boldly  standing up for themselves in In every space socially, politically and economically while millennials, just like their parents gen x followed up everything like a flock of sheep to the slaughter house. Gen z have said no to that kind of existence and you should see the shock on everyone's face coz "how dare they question and go against the societal norms". 

Annele Amani writes

Hakuna watu wanaumia hii dunia kama millennials, especially those raised kwa village with community morals. Their parents never told them ati the world is cold. They were raised thinking that most people are inherently good. They were raised thinking they deserve fairness because they are good people. They were raised believing that marriage is everlasting, God is real and He will help them when they are struggling, neighbours are friends and they will be there for them when they are down. Guess what? I know hata hujui neighbour wako hapa Nairobi.

Ha! Millennials were even raised to believe in working honestly and diligently. They believe in employment and politicians. They think just because their colleague is a Luhya and they are Luhya, ati they are safe. 

Millennials had their life planned out for them. School, job, marriage, family, death. Well, that's not going as planned for most. Millennials hawajaoa na hawajaolewa, na inawakula kichwa. The good women and men they envisioned to get, hawako. Their parents are pressuring them about marriage. Hawana kazi and majority don't think outside the box. Hawezi uza Smokies na alifanya Bachelors in Commerce akaongeza CPA ama sijui ni nini hizo watu wa commerce hua mnaongeza.

I find millennials not to be sharp socially and in life generally. The system dumbed them by giving them a manual. Hata apigwe na bwana, anavumilia tu. Akiwa single mother, anajichukia. Marriage ikifail, hamove on. Anajiona failure. Mwanaume kazi ikiisha, hataki mjengo kabisa. Maisha ikiwa ngumu anakimbia kwa pastor Ezekiel kununua handkerchief ya 8k.

Parents to millennials failed. According to me, most didn't prepare their children for things like divorce, single parenthood, joblessness, disappointment and hurt from the world. Millennials fear change kabisa. Heri avumilie yote just to avoid changing. A millennial will stay kwa toxic job, hata wacha toxic job, kwa job moja ya kumlipa 15k for years hadi retire juu it's a permanent and pensionable. Any thoughts of getting a better job is like treason to them.

If you ever see someone who is bitter online about their ex wa 8 years ago, it's a millennial. They don't know how to move on. You'll find them camped kwa hawa self-proclaimed teachers of men and women trying to get marriage and relationship tips because what they were promised never came and so they don't know how to navigate. They will be there listening to how wanaume are bad or wanawake should be avoided because they're lost and they don't know what to do about love. Na by the way, almost all teachers of men and women are millennials.

Millennials hate single people. Juu they don't know you can just be single. They will be there attacking Maina Kageni and Sanaipei because how dare them go off the script? It you see such attacks, it's from a millennial. I can bet. 

I hope you raise your children to know from the onset that the world is cold. Power and money is taken, not given. Let them know that school is perfect, but it's not the only key. Let them know that love disappoints, God doesn't answer prayers promptly; sometimes He takes long 

Poor millennials!

Credits; Annele Amani, Facebook. 

DEAR PARENT, TATTOO ON YOUR CHILD? NO JOB FOR THEM

 

The ongoing KDF recruitment has been a wake-up call for me, both as a parent and an educator. About 1,500 recruits were sent home after failing drug tests. Let that sink in. 1,500Just last month, two friends and I were celebrating because our kids had been shortlisted for Cadet professional courses. 

We decided to do pre-screening early to avoid surprises.

Good decision.

A trip to the Coast revealed a tattoo on my daughter.

Luckily, I knew KDF bans tattoos, so we had it removed. One of my friends wasn’t so lucky—he only discovered his son’s tattoo this week. The boy was turned back on Tuesday. Dream shattered.

The other friend’s daughter failed the drug test. She has never smoked, injected or sniffed anything. But in law school she casually ate those “brown weed cookies” at parties. That was enough.

This generation is swimming in weed culture. Back then, “kukunywa bangi” was an abomination.

Today? It’s normal. Even fashionable.

Two friends recently found rolls of weed in their daughters’ bags. These are bright, lovely girls. Sweet kids. But the world they live in is different—and very unforgiving. Parents, let’s stop living in denial. We need honest conversations, early guidance, and real vigilance. Teachers, start career talks WAY earlier—before peer pressure, parties, tattoos and piercings close doors like KDF, NYS, law enforcement, aviation, and more.

As for my girl, a medical issue (not drug-related) made us step aside from this year’s intake.

Bottom line:

Parenting today requires sharper eyes, open conversations, and early intervention.

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Burial sermons in big 2025

Hello 👋 Mr preacher, sermons during burials in Africa in this big 2025? Please let's evolve. 

My thoughts on sermons during burials in Africa. This has got nothing to do with wokeness. 

Photo courtesy - Wikipedia 

The preaching /sermon session  during burials in Africa is a very unnecessary endeavor. It's ridiculous at this point imo. That's one practice that the next generation should discard completely in let's say 50 years or so. It beats my common logic the importance of it coz if I want to know more about Jesus I'll go to a church and not a burial. It actually feels like a chore . Is it designed on purpose to break the monotony of that current somber mood? What's the intention of that session? What is it designed to achieve? If the deceased was a staunch Christian the business of the presiding preacher should end at prayers only. Am tempted to assume that specific sermon is meant to gaslight/manipulate/instill fear to those left behind to see if they'll give their lives to jesus. Does that gospel still work? That one of frightening/threatening people with hell fire 🔥 and suffering for eternity? Like kambas and kikuyus casually put it "mwaki wa tene na tene"! Also eulogies in big 2025? Com'n fellow African . A small quiet send off attended by close relatives and friends only should be the norm. But no let's hold the biggest most expensive burial in this side of Sahara, with pomp and mbwembwe. Let's do an online fundraising to feed hundreds of multitudes. you'd even be surprised we are now in a competition of which family outdid the rest in giving their departed one the most dignified send off of all time. And what shocks me about this African culture that's basically deluded with hypocrisy is how we are neglecting our very own during their last days on this universe, forgetting them in their hour of dire need in totality only to show up immediately they pass away when they nolonger need us. A relative will be down with a chronic terminal illness, they will need palliative care and attention but we will be so unavailable because we are busy with our daily hustle and bustle, grinding hard every single day with no time to spare in town but we will magically find time and resources to spare when they're long dead. What for? Those employers that can't give you an off day to rush and see your loved ones where do they get the audacity to release you when that person is dead? Does it come off as if we are valuing the death more than the life? That business that we can't close when they are sick, that money we don't have when they are chronically ill where do we magically get it from to traverse miles, cross rivers and bridges to go bury them? Ai man Africa is one glorified ghetto immersed in hypocrisy and mediocrity.  Can we stop doing that please 🙏. Can we develop a culture of showing up to people when they need us please. They need us when they are alive. They need  us when they can see and feel the love we profess to them when they're silent in those coffins.  Let's show our loved ones that strong love and affection when they are breathing. Coz the minute they breath their last they nolonger care, they nolonger need it. Let's give them those fancy fantastic rose flowers when they can still smell them and smile at us with appreciation. 

Lastly please, let's avoid lying during that eulogy session. We are living badly with people. We have total disregard of people while they are still breathing and kicking. You can't see eye to eye with your brother or sister or neighbor but you want to lie to us during their burial that you loved each other and you lived well with them? I'm sure even Satan herself doesn't appreciate that. Do good, Change or perish. 

Na pastors wanalipwa kuzika mtu these days . shuwaly maina ni udinyi upi huo? 

Ai man just blow the Damn trumpet atp. The rupture is long overdue.

Whats the purpose of life to a man?

 You get to a point in adulthood when you have so much in your mind, your heart is heavy, and you really want to open up to someone, then you look around and realise there is no one to talk to. 

It is intimate stuff that is eating you up. Gobbling you up like an aggressive cancer. You need a confidant. You need a comforter. A mentor. A spiritual advisor. Someone who can make you see life from a different dimension, or at least introduce new perspectives or lenses to view life with.  

Typically such person could be a parent, an uncle or aunt(senje, in that traditional affectionate sense). It could be that wise friend who seems to have figured out life.  

Then one day in your adulthood, your parents are gone. The uncle or the aunt who could pump some hope into your life is gone. And you have drifted apart from your friend, or he or she is dead. Another worse situation is when they exist but now your existential problems are misaligned with whatever advice they may offer you. Say, you want to divorce an abusive spouse but your trusted parent or uncle/aunt only believes in kuvumilia. You don't exactly hate or despise their advice. If anything you see their point, but their adamant stance is completely anti-thetical to your angst. You need different gears and levers to move your life forward. 

This particular problem can smack you any time after 25, but it gets objectively worse as you age. And then, later in your 30s, the problems become deeply personal. Every man or woman you open up to, is either battling their own demons, or is ill-equipped to offer you the padded shoulder to lean on in such times. 

As an adult you will battle a lot of problem. Some could be frivolous, some serious, and some life-threatening. From infertility problems under the probing eyes of relatives and friends, to a diabetic man with other attendant problems causing all manner of problems in his marriage, to unemployment, unrealised and unfulfilled dreams, unmet expectations, disappointments, relationships that didn't work, jobs that didn't deliver the high hopes they promised, can only ruin a person. 

But there are higher spiritual problems that we battle with. The question of identity. Who are we? What are we doing here?  Is there a point to life? After all this suffering, we die. Just like that. Gone and forgotten. 

The internal battles, away from those problems that can be fixed(e.g, if broke, we can fix that if you get a job or money), have a way of isolating us. Hence the friend who stops picking calls. The friend who disappears under the radar. The poor choices like alcoholism or drug abuse, as an escape from the harsh reality of life. 

The worst poverty is to be in a place where you have no one to confide to your worst fears, whatever their nature. 

Hence later in life, you will learn a certain sad fact about a friend that will break your heart. "You mean he was going through all that and we didn't know? Poor thing..." 

People say when something tragic happens to a friend and with hindsight you start to think it was completely avoidable. It wasn't. We only confide things to people when we feel safe. 

That is why kujitia kitanzi is something that I understand. Someone who does that means whatever that that was troubling them, in their assessment, no human being was capable of understanding their pain. People could trivialise the pain, laugh at it, or fail to understand the enormity of the problem. As human beings we are very poor at assessing people and what they are going through.  

I don't know if I am making sense.

 But I know many adults have so many battles inside them, some they will win with time and creative adjustments to their situation. But some, may take time and unfortunately the pain may never be resolved.  Resentment is permanent human condition, and mastering how to handle it is not an easy thing. 

To understand the loneliness of internal battles, allow me to use the example of Jesus. Remember when he went to Gethsmane to pray. I often think about his last days before being crucified. He took three disciples with him to pray. When he moved away from them to pray, asking God to take the cup from him, he asked the disciples(John, James and Peter) to pray so as not to fall into temptations. Two times he came back to find them asleep. Later that night, Peter even denied him, and Judas did betray him eventually.  

Sometimes you can tell your friends what you are going through and they can laugh at you, deny you, or betray you and now that we live in the tea culture, you become the hot tea.  Motivational speakers will tell you to be there for yourself. But what if the self is scared, afraid and inadequate? 

We used to seek refuge in family, but family in some cases the source of the pain you are going through. A believer can turn to God. What A Friend We Have in Jesus? the old beautiful hymn asks, and answers more profoundly what a friendship with Jesus means. 

But what does a non-believer do when walking through that Valley of Darkness?  By and large, we get by, human beings are surprisingly resilient. What we never talk about is the mental scars we accumulate as we age. From the heartbreaks, the betrayal of friends, the unmet expectations, unfulfilled dreams, the realisation that there isn't so much to life, unless you assign meaning to it, and the many things beyond our control that are thrown at us. But finding a comforter, a confidant, a trusted friend, is truly one of the most blessed gifts life can grant you. Not all of us can be stoics( though I encourage it).  Count yourself lucky if you do become a stoic. Count yourself lucky if you escape crippling internal battles.  

Written by Silas Nyanchwani. 

X @nywanchani. 

A seasoned author and publisher. 

Newly married men, this is for you.

Hi. I’ve been married for over 10yrs and also happen to be a Christian counsellor. I’m sorry about what you are going through so early in marriage but to an extent it is expected because first, you are in what I call the “Drama” stage. You are getting to know one another. Yes, you might have dated for a while, you might have “known” each other, you might have even lived together. Once you get married there’s a mental shift (or not) towards life long commitment. This is a shift, be patient with yourself and with your partner. Remember the stages of a team? Forming, storming, norming and performing? To an extent that still applies to marriage. Be patient. Pursue the things that made you close at first. Whether it’s talking a walk together, washing dishes, whatever it is, it helped you build intimacy and connection that is what will keep you in the long run. This is a marathon, not a sprint. 

Second, in this drama stage, you are learning character flaws about yourself and your partner. Some will be jarring. The rule of thumb is here is “You are the problem in your marriage.” I know everything in you is rebelling against this statement. Truth is, it is always easier to point out the wrong in your partner than the wrong in you. You are only in charge of your responses and reactions not your partner. You are as much a problem as your partner is. Each one reveals their own insecurities, flaws, selfishness that drives them to pull the relationship to their end at the expense of their partner. Self awareness is very important. Understanding your triggers. If something is pissing you off, why is it? If you are finding something disrespectful, why is it? How much of your perception is informed by the patterns that you grew up in? Your experiences in life? etc. We all have filters that influence how we perceive what is before us, being aware of these is a good step. Don’t be afraid to seek therapy, sometimes its just to help you understand yourself better and your filters.

Third, based on above, in marriage we are advised never to change someone, but that doesn’t mean they won’t change. There’s the person we marry, there’s the person they become when they are married to us. There’s a difference between accepting the person you are with and trying to mould them into what you want them to be. Change is inevitable yes, but that doesn’t mean that you are the one to effect that change. Don’t seek to change someone, no human has ever achieved that. Also because I am a christian, let me explain 3 things. Justice, mercy and grace. In simple terms Justice is you getting what you deserve. If you hurt me and the rule is an eye for an eye then you getting hurt is what you deserve. Mercy is you not getting what you deserve. I believe in legal terms this would be pardon. Grace however is you getting what you don’t deserve. You hurt me, yet I still treat you well, I still love you and all those unconditional things that love does. This is hard! In marriage, truth must be accompanied by grace. You are not expressing your displeasure with the goal of breaking down your partner but you want to help them become the best person they can be for the health of your union. Similarly they do the same for you. Be clear on why you got married in the first place. We always have reasons beyond love. Sometimes these reasons are wrong e.g. dem amefungiwa home na wazazi strict looking for a way out. Boy kadinya who thinks marriage will make him stop that lifestyle. Many different reasons….be clear on what yours is. 

Fourth, there’s something we call the Love-Respect cycle. The man’s greatest need is respect, the woman’s greatest need is love. Your partner says something disrespectful and you respond in an unloving manner and the cycle goes on and on. So If you partner says something disrespectful, you have a choice, you can either react (usually to no good end) or you can respond and constructively steer the relationship away from what you have described.

Fifth, who surrounds you? What is your support system like? Over the years of my marriage I have learnt that if you don’t surround yourself with people who have the same beliefs about marriage as you (or you desire) itakua ngumu sana. E.g. if you believe that both partners should be loving and caring to one another and you pursue it yet you surround yourself with people who’s mindset is that their partner is there to serve them, or a man should rule his house with an iron fist, there will be a conflict because you will slowly but surely start to apply the same mindset. Be careful who you keep around you. If they are not helping you keep the sanctity of your marriage, the fruits will be seen in due time. Find an older couple to mentor y’all, find peers that believe in marriage in the same way as you do. Do not isolate yourselves. It never ends well.

sikutaka kuandika lecture ama term paper. I have struggled to make this response concise coz with marriage nothing is ever a straight line. There’s a lot that is interconnected, especially your past…it always comes back to haunt you if you haven’t dealt with it.

Lawyer wahome thuku calls on well wishers for Quincy timbalakes sons.

Quincy Timbalake with his former two wives, Esther arunga and Tose mwende

 

Wahome thuku has taken to social media to narrate the plight of Quincy timbalakes 3 sons from his first marriage to mwende(deceased)

TIMBERLAKE, MWENI STORY

The story of a steamy love relationship and subsequent marriage between former TV beauty queen Esther Arunga and one Quincy Timberlake hit the media headlines in one of the biggest ways at the time. That was 2009. You all recall it.

You also probably know that Timberlake had been married to a lady called Rose Mweni Gideon since 1990s, thereabout. They lived together in Komarock, Nairobi and begot three sons, Trivor, Quicy and Cassidy.Rose was a housewife, born and brought up in Athi River, Machakos County. Then around 2009, Esther Arunga happened.Rose was interviewed in several media houses thereafter, explaining how she learned of the husband’s relationship with Esther through the media.She said after the news broke out, Timberlake came home one day, took away his stuff and left, never to be seen again. 

Fast forward, Timberlake and Esther migrated to Australia. While there, they were arrested and charged over the murder of their son in 2014. Esther was freed but Timberlake was not. That is history.

Back home, it would appear that the relationship between Timberlake and Esther, affected Rose in a big way. She developed health issues, fell into depression and never recovered. She died in March last year and was buried in Makueni on April 8. Her own mother had died on 2021. 

Rose and Timberlake left behind three very bright kids. Trivor, the first born struggled through school when the mother was alive. Today is here and there, doing casual jobs and struggling to maintain the two siblings.Quicy the second born went to Chavakali Boys High School, supported by the mother and a few friends. He completed Form 4 last year and got a straight grade A.

You would imagine, sitting for an examination just after the mother’s death and passing like that.Now he is hoping to join University and take a good course. His problem, Iam told he has a school fees balance of Ksh12,500 so he cant receive his university admission letter. That’s him.

And even if he joins university, paying college fees will be the next biggest challenge.Cassidy the last born is presently in Form 4 at a school called Green Oak Center in Nairobi. He is a day scholar. The young boy was the most affected by the parents separation and the aftermath.First he went to Chania High School in Thika, having passed well in primary school. He was supported by the mother and some few friends. But even they could not afford to keep him in school. He studied for a few weeks in form one, then school fees arrears kicked him out of school.Friends enrolled him at Mavoko High School in Machakos County in Form 2. He schooled for two terms, developed a medical issues and dropped out.He is now at Green Oak, combining both Form 3 and Form 4 work. That was the only way to save him from ultimate depression.He has registered for KCSE examination which starts in November. His problem, school fees balance of Ksh33,000.

The three boys live together in one room somewhere in Nairobi. I am told they were housed there by a well wisher after being kicked out of their house over rent arrears.

How can we help these two kids? Let me start it this way, can we?

I never give a Paybill number since I can't manage to control it. If you think you can bail them out then you can only trust me with your money. No other way. You know I will account. My line is 722627091.

Few days after release by a malindi court, blogger Pauline njoroge tours Corinthians.

Just a few days after her release by a malindi court following allegations of drug trafficking, blogger Pauline njoroge is in Corinth. 

Here's what she posted on her social media platforms about the great ancient city Corinth.  

 Where I am standing on the 1st and 3rd photo is exactly where Apostle Paul stood and preached to the Corinthians. 

Corinth was one of the most important Greek City States; it was a wealthy and a thriving city. If there was a comparison to a present day city, that would be Las Vegas. The city had two sea ports; on the Corinthian sea and the Argosaronic sea, making it an important and powerful trading destination. People from all over the Mediterranean world converged in Corinth. 

With the kind of money in circulation, Corinth was the sin city of the ancient times. People were engaged in all manner of indulgencies, gambling, sex etc, and were more stubborn than Nairobians 😅. The religious background of Corinth was a mix of Greek, Roman, and Oriental. The teachings of Christianity which was a new religion went against the grain of everything these people knew of a belief system. 

The church in Corinth also had various struggles such as divisions, false teachings and immorality. It was for this reason that Apostle Paul wrote them two letters in order to strengthen the converts who struggled with reverting to their past belief, and to help them with their questions and problems. 

The apostle spent a year and a half in Corinth and many people believed in Jesus because of his preaching. Amidst many challenges Paul a Roman citizen also preached in other parts of Greece. He was the apostle called to the gentiles, and he faithfully carried out this mission until his death. It is believed he was beheaded in Rome.

If Paul was writing to Kenyans today, how do you think he would address us?